Comments for Diane Spear, LCSW

Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by Kim

Kim — Tue, 31 May 2011 04:59:43 +0000

Great story. The ironic thing? I totally left my phone in the cab after reading your post. Doh! But, I got it back too!

Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by shelley simpson

shelley simpson — Fri, 27 May 2011 16:50:56 +0000

So many lessons to draw from this – don’t panic! rely on someone else to pick up some of the responsibilities (husband in this case)! life is full of choices, pick the one that puts you in control! always keep your phone in your hand just in case you lose your bag! and keep plenty of business cards on hand!

Seriously, this is a wonderful illustration one small thing you can help someone with that will change their every day lives. Thanks for sharing!

Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by Gerald Jonas

Gerald Jonas — Fri, 27 May 2011 00:24:05 +0000

Wow, what a story. Scary and with a happy ending… what more could one ask? It’s always nice to hear about good people in NYC, and always good to be reminded that panic only gets in the way of solutions.
Hope you had a great trip, Gerry

Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by Millie

Millie — Thu, 26 May 2011 23:24:48 +0000

Wow, what an ordeal for anyone to endure. I am so glad to hear you had an honest cabbie. Not many are blessed with an end to a situation like this.

Panic takes so many forms. Mine is leaving the house. I was staying home all the time after a serious illness, and panic would set in if I were asked to leave the house unless for a doctors appointment. My husband helped me face up to this by having me bring him lunch. At fist it was going to be just a couple of days a week but has turned into daily. It gives me purpose to get showered and dressed and open the gate and get out. After I am started, I get lots of errands done, and enjoy seeing my husband at lunch.

Comment on Learning Disappointment from David Mamet and “American Idol” by Millie

Millie — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 01:09:48 +0000

Odd to think I know a couple who use this and their “perfection” to procrastinate about finishing their home. They own three properties. One is next door to me and it is looking as if it will NEVER be finished. They have another home in another town and a river property that isn’t finished. They are never happy and talk to death the projects for each property. They live in one and have no income off the other two. I look at it also as not only disappointment in each other but as a power play. At first I thought it was just the husband but now I am not so sure it isn’t both. They have grandiose ideas but never implement any of them. Makes me “crazy” when they just keep adding to their list. The list gets so impossibly long it is not even manageable. They have each had multiple marriages so I guess their dissappointment manafests in this strange relationship they have. I guess each to his own. Therapy for them???? I think a therapist would have to have a glass of wine before their appointment. Ha!

Comment on Big Love by Kim H

Kim H — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 04:06:23 +0000

Loved the show. Loved the ending. It was unexpected, but made sense. While Nikki was the least-relatable character to me, I thought she was the most thought-provoking and most interesting to watch … usually. However, I would have liked to have seen a bigger character arch where she had some redeeming value at the end. But, then again, she was probably beyond therapy with no hope in sight. (FYI – Chloe Sevigny is playing “Lizzie Bordon” in the next HBO mini-series — it’s like “Nikki” on steroids!) I loved both Barb and Margene.

By the by … you might be waiting for a while to see Gabriel Byrne in “In Treatment”. HBO doesn’t have any plans to pick up the series for another season. (sniff, sniff) Although, they may try and re-format the series … here’s a link for more information: http://www.deadline.com/2011/03/hbo-no-current-plans-for-fourth-season-of-in-treatment/

Comment on Comfort Zone by Karen Kratenstein

Karen Kratenstein — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 00:43:28 +0000

Your comfort zone article was very comforting! I was very shy growing up. I took a job in sales to overcome my shyness and venture out of my comfort zone. I have not stopped since!

Comment on Finding a Therapist Online by Kim H

Kim H — Sat, 26 Mar 2011 05:31:12 +0000

Researching and finding a therapist (or any professional for that matter) online is a great start, but it should by no means be the determining factor in choosing one. I think it’s more about how well you can connect with the person versus where they went to school, how many degrees they have, reviews, et al.

I know of another therapist who has an online presence and he is constantly getting negative comments and reviews on his blog. (Some pretty nasty ones too.) But, they are usually from people who have pre-conceived notions about therapy or have had a negative experience and think all therapists are the same.

And if you do go to a restaurant that serves undercooked chicken … then, yeah, go online and write a bad review

Comment on Are You Doing All You Can? by Millie

Millie — Fri, 18 Mar 2011 00:51:38 +0000

When we are young, we think life goes on forever. Some look for someone to take care of them and some look for someone to do the caretaking. Depending on someone else for your future is risky. Each person must have goals to move forward into something like retirement. If you don’t have a relationship that works toaward the same goals, disappointment will be all that is found. It matters not how much education each has, just a common goal. Each has their own responsibilities to get to that goal. Don’t wait until retirement is upon you, get busy and work toward it. Blame stagnates.

Comment on Comfort Zone by Carol Hillson

Carol Hillson — Fri, 11 Mar 2011 00:12:50 +0000

I used to call it the 6 block radius – though as you aptly point out – it has shrunk to my living room! Oh dear…