Comments for Diane Spear, LCSW http://dianespeartherapy.com New York City Counseling and Psychotherapy Thu, 26 Apr 2012 20:02:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Therapy: Long or Short? by Kim http://dianespeartherapy.com/2012/04/therapy-long-short/#comment-387 Kim Thu, 26 Apr 2012 20:02:21 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=639#comment-387 You raise some really good points about both short-term and long-term therapy having its place. Short-term therapy can help with the symptoms, but long-term therapy helps deal with the problem. But, I also don’t think you have to have “severe” problems to stay in therapy. Things like “reality checking”, dealing with your day-to-day narcissism, working through marital & child issues as they come up, etc. are all good reasons to keep it up. You raise some really good points about both short-term and long-term therapy having its place. Short-term therapy can help with the symptoms, but long-term therapy helps deal with the problem. But, I also don’t think you have to have “severe” problems to stay in therapy. Things like “reality checking”, dealing with your day-to-day narcissism, working through marital & child issues as they come up, etc. are all good reasons to keep it up.

]]> Comment on Therapy: Long or Short? by shelley simpson http://dianespeartherapy.com/2012/04/therapy-long-short/#comment-386 shelley simpson Thu, 26 Apr 2012 18:48:13 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=639#comment-386 Albert's theory reminds me once again that people expect the instantaneous - Microwave cooking! Info via text and tweet! We are able to find what we want or think we want with a quick click on the Internet. When it comes to health, look at what is spent on OTC medication to cover symptoms that have nothing to do with prevention OR cure. And speaking of medication, people are willing to pop a pill rather than tweak their diet or do some exercise because medicine is a quick "fix" and food is a slow cure." So why not expect to resolve our personal and interpersonal issues with a quick sesssion with an "expert" who knows a one size fits all pithy solution? It sounds good and makes for good copy. Problem is that at the end of the day the only thing that changes is the money that flows from the one with expectations of expediency to the one who takes full advantage of the expediency epidemic. Albert’s theory reminds me once again that people expect the instantaneous – Microwave cooking! Info via text and tweet! We are able to find what we want or think we want with a quick click on the Internet. When it comes to health, look at what is spent on OTC medication to cover symptoms that have nothing to do with prevention OR cure. And speaking of medication, people are willing to pop a pill rather than tweak their diet or do some exercise because medicine is a quick “fix” and food is a slow cure.” So why not expect to resolve our personal and interpersonal issues with a quick sesssion with an “expert” who knows a one size fits all pithy solution? It sounds good and makes for good copy. Problem is that at the end of the day the only thing that changes is the money that flows from the one with expectations of expediency to the one who takes full advantage of the expediency epidemic.

]]> Comment on Therapy: Long or Short? by Margaret Langston http://dianespeartherapy.com/2012/04/therapy-long-short/#comment-385 Margaret Langston Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:20:12 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=639#comment-385 The video made me howl! Thanks Diane for the laugh and a very insightful article. The video made me howl! Thanks Diane for the laugh and a very insightful article.

]]> Comment on Therapy: Long or Short? by Cheryl http://dianespeartherapy.com/2012/04/therapy-long-short/#comment-384 Cheryl Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:58:59 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=639#comment-384 Jonothan sounds as if he needs a therapist himself. Life happens and is not cut and dry. Everyone is unique and in need of individual respect and assistence. We do have a society that loves to point fingers and lay blame off on others. They need to take responsibility for their own actions. Jonothan seems to have picked the wrong profession or needs more empathy. I do think people become dependent on their therapists, even if the therapist is attempting to help them make their own decisions. There are people like that and I am sure it is comforting to have a therapist/friend/confidante to talk with. There is too much stress these days and too many demands. Some feed on stress and some just sit down and moan. Therapists seem to be able to to assist people to bridge the gap. Who knows, Jonothan may help some and not others with his method. Jonothan sounds as if he needs a therapist himself. Life happens and is not cut and dry. Everyone is unique and in need of individual respect and assistence. We do have a society that loves to point fingers and lay blame off on others. They need to take responsibility for their own actions. Jonothan seems to have picked the wrong profession or needs more empathy. I do think people become dependent on their therapists, even if the therapist is attempting to help them make their own decisions. There are people like that and I am sure it is comforting to have a therapist/friend/confidante to talk with. There is too much stress these days and too many demands. Some feed on stress and some just sit down and moan. Therapists seem to be able to to assist people to bridge the gap. Who knows, Jonothan may help some and not others with his method.

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]]> Comment on “Because You Loved Me”—Co-Dependency or Good Parenting? by Rob http://dianespeartherapy.com/2012/03/because-loved-me-co-dependency-sweet-truth/#comment-382 Rob Mon, 09 Apr 2012 16:54:53 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=623#comment-382 Good post. I always hated that song. Glad to have a way to get through it! Thanks. Good post. I always hated that song. Glad to have a way to get through it! Thanks.

]]> Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by Kim http://dianespeartherapy.com/2011/05/push-panic-button/#comment-244 Kim Tue, 31 May 2011 04:59:43 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=483#comment-244 Great story. The ironic thing? I totally left my phone in the cab after reading your post. Doh! But, I got it back too! Great story. The ironic thing? I totally left my phone in the cab after reading your post. Doh! But, I got it back too!

]]> Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by shelley simpson http://dianespeartherapy.com/2011/05/push-panic-button/#comment-225 shelley simpson Fri, 27 May 2011 16:50:56 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=483#comment-225 So many lessons to draw from this - don't panic! rely on someone else to pick up some of the responsibilities (husband in this case)! life is full of choices, pick the one that puts you in control! always keep your phone in your hand just in case you lose your bag! and keep plenty of business cards on hand! Seriously, this is a wonderful illustration one small thing you can help someone with that will change their every day lives. Thanks for sharing! So many lessons to draw from this – don’t panic! rely on someone else to pick up some of the responsibilities (husband in this case)! life is full of choices, pick the one that puts you in control! always keep your phone in your hand just in case you lose your bag! and keep plenty of business cards on hand!

Seriously, this is a wonderful illustration one small thing you can help someone with that will change their every day lives. Thanks for sharing!

]]> Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by Gerald Jonas http://dianespeartherapy.com/2011/05/push-panic-button/#comment-222 Gerald Jonas Fri, 27 May 2011 00:24:05 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=483#comment-222 Wow, what a story. Scary and with a happy ending... what more could one ask? It's always nice to hear about good people in NYC, and always good to be reminded that panic only gets in the way of solutions. Hope you had a great trip, Gerry Wow, what a story. Scary and with a happy ending… what more could one ask? It’s always nice to hear about good people in NYC, and always good to be reminded that panic only gets in the way of solutions.
Hope you had a great trip, Gerry

]]> Comment on Don’t Push the Panic Button! by Millie http://dianespeartherapy.com/2011/05/push-panic-button/#comment-221 Millie Thu, 26 May 2011 23:24:48 +0000 http://dianespeartherapy.com/?p=483#comment-221 Wow, what an ordeal for anyone to endure. I am so glad to hear you had an honest cabbie. Not many are blessed with an end to a situation like this. Panic takes so many forms. Mine is leaving the house. I was staying home all the time after a serious illness, and panic would set in if I were asked to leave the house unless for a doctors appointment. My husband helped me face up to this by having me bring him lunch. At fist it was going to be just a couple of days a week but has turned into daily. It gives me purpose to get showered and dressed and open the gate and get out. After I am started, I get lots of errands done, and enjoy seeing my husband at lunch. Wow, what an ordeal for anyone to endure. I am so glad to hear you had an honest cabbie. Not many are blessed with an end to a situation like this.

Panic takes so many forms. Mine is leaving the house. I was staying home all the time after a serious illness, and panic would set in if I were asked to leave the house unless for a doctors appointment. My husband helped me face up to this by having me bring him lunch. At fist it was going to be just a couple of days a week but has turned into daily. It gives me purpose to get showered and dressed and open the gate and get out. After I am started, I get lots of errands done, and enjoy seeing my husband at lunch.

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